Sologomy: Woman who helps others self-marry reveal what takes place in the ceremonies

The Independent 23 March 2017
Family First Comment: The push continues to distort the true and natural meaning of marriage – “sologamy”, “monogamish”, polyamorous, group marriage,

Dominique, who married herself in 2011 and wears a nose ring as a symbol of her sologamy, talks to The Independent about how she helps other women undergoing the same commitment.

Over the past few years, there has been a rise in ‘self-marriage’. This being quite as literal as it sounds – making a commitment to a deep, meaningful relationship with just yourself.

Self-marriage, otherwise known as sologamy, is not legally recognised but has been on a steady rise in recent years. In many cases, it can mirror traditional weddings with various case studies and news stories showing women in wedding dresses stood alongside their bridesmaids and wearing a wedding ring.

Dominique, from California, runs a self-marriage ceremonies website which assists people who wish to make that commitment to themselves. She says the community of people willing to do so is growing

She held her own ceremony in 2011, aged 22, after “practicing self-love for many years”, where she lit candles in her bedroom and vowed to be “kind and compassionate to myself, especially when I make mistakes”. Prior to this, she travelled across India for six months to connect with her own self-love after dedicating her career and studies to researching the subject.

“My purpose in life is to help hold a space within and for all to drop into our true nature of being, to love ourselves more fully, and to experience the true intimacy of the divine in order to create a world where we live, serve, and embody love,” she told The Independent. “I have dedicated my life to the pursuit and study of love as a force for global, social, and personal change.”

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